Sam is "The Man"

Star Magazine has unearthed the riveting news that Samantha Ronson is "the husband" in the lezbo relationship she has with Lindsay.
They’re totally playing house and loving every minute of it. And, yes, they share a bed!” They call Samantha’s Hollywood house “home” — and behind closed doors, “Lindsay and Sam play certain roles — Sam is the boss, the husband. Lindsay is the passive one, the wife. Lindsay will do whatever it takes to hold on to Sam, for Sam fulfills her every wish.
the hideous pair enjoy Disneyland along with Lindsay's 44 year old sister

They sure had me fooled because Sam is so delicate... and feminine